Romance Is So Overated
I know, I know…. Flowers, Chocolates and romantic getaways they are all very nice and lovely. However romance is something that is read in books or watched in films. And this is coming from the biggest hopeless romantic you could ever meet.
I have dreamed of the day, when my knight in shining white “Pugh” (turban) turns up at my house and whisks me away to an exotic island to drink coconut milk. Reality is, he is not going to do any of that. The society I have been brought up in, stresses that a girl is simply not a woman or has any form of power/freedom until the day she is married. This view is slowly changing but there is much pressure on us young ladies to do the right thing and marry the “right” guy.
This burden of being a singleton 22 year old has been carried on my shoulders for a while now and I am simply tired of this notion that society expects me to fill. To make it worst there is a 101 point check list that this Prince needs to meet. And even by my extremely high standards this is asking a little too much from a man.
I have been in relationships and have met some incredible guys, although all have seemed to have broken my sweet innocent heart. So I go on to the topic, that all these men were so overtly romantic but why didn’t the relationship last?
And here’s the answer:
It came to my understanding that these men were creating a dream for themselves and for their self esteem. In reality, there came a time where they simply could not continue this illusion they created. It just not practical. However instead of simply trying to move things at a different pace or to try and resolve the situation. These men/BOYS just would prefer to end it, as there is too much work involved.
And it made me realise, that I don’t want a romantic man or a fake romance. I want true real lasting love. But that is boring. I have noticed a trend that everyone wants to be a socialite or famous or powerful and play games. None, of these people will keep a relationship unless they learn to love themselves first and realise a good relationship, takes time, effort and a lot of compromise.
With people becoming more fickle, greedy and too stubborn, long lasting relationships are a rare species. Everyone is seeking to be loved and find love; so how do we stop all this pain and heartbreak. Well one needs to learn that true love doesn’t come from an external source or person, or thing. True love, is loving yourself. Instead of searching the globe for a person to fill that gap of loneliness, search yourself and find what you are about and why you are here. And once you have, when a person comes into your life you will just know that this is the right thing and that they will bring more to the relationship rather than fill holes in your heart.
True love is not shown by the amount of materialistic things they buy, but the thought they have put into doing the simplest things to make you feel their love.
So to the my future man out there, R.I.S.O and I just want you to know I will be happy as you are.
Till next time